Defining Moments

Marriage Moments

June 6, 2021


Marriage is the exclusive covenantal union of one man and one woman in which such union is a lifetime commitment.

“Haven’t you read,” [Jesus] replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Matthew 19:4-6)

Marriage is more than a social contract; it is a sacred covenant witnessed and guaranteed by God himself.

Marriage is a divine institution, not a human invention.

“The fish must honor its design. It is designed for water, not for land. Real freedom is not living without restrictions. It’s about finding the right ones.”—Tim Keller

…is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. (Malachi 2:14)
…who has left the partner of her youth and ignored the covenant she made before God. (Proverbs 2:17)

“When a man and woman covenant together with one another, God promises faithfulness to them. And that helps couples keep the faith.”—Les and Leslie Parrott

  • The first is a mutual commitment to be faithful to one person for a lifetime.
  • The second is to fulfill whatever legal requirements there are in the culture in which they live.
  • The third is the physical consummation of the relationship.

Since marriage is a sacred covenant, a wedding ceremony should be a significant life event.

The kingdom of heaven is like a king who prepared a wedding banquet for his son. (Matthew 22:2)

Since marriage is a sacred covenant, a wedding ceremony should retain traditions that reflect spiritual truths.

You nullify the word of God for the sake of your traditions. (Matthew 15:6)

He went to the synagogue on the Sabbath day as was His custom. (Luke 4:16)

Strong’s Bible Concordance defines a covenant as “a compact made by passing between pieces of flesh.”

On that day the LORD made a covenant with Abram… (Genesis 15:18)
Take off your sandals, for the place where you are standing is holy ground. (Exodus 3:5)

Traditional vows: “For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.”

Love is a matter of choice. – And over all these virtues put on love… (Colossians 3:14) Love is a matter of conduct. – Dear children, let us love not with words or tongue but with actions and in truth. (1 John 3:18)
Love is a matter of commitment. – Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:7-8)
Love is a matter of covenant. – Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you. (Hebrews 13:5)

Since marriage is a sacred covenant, a wedding ceremony should exalt Christ to all who witness it. – Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. (Colossians 4:5)

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they can keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)

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